i just found out that a relative of mines six year old child has drowned and died, inna lillahu wa inna ilahi rajiun (from Allah we have come and to him is our return)! i find it really difficult to come to terms with a death when it has happened so suddenly and tragically such as this one! the hardest thing for a mother is probably losing your own child, but when it happens in this way, it must make it so much worse. when a death happens through illness, you can give yourself a reason as to why it has happened, you can tell yourself that it has happened through no fault of your own, but when a healthy, happy, six year old drowns it's just hard to except.
i just want to say to all the mothers who have gone through this or are going through this, it is not your fault! life and death is from Allah alone, there was nothing you could have done to prevent this, may Allah grant you sabr (patience) and sakeena (tranquility) in your heart and help you to get through it!